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Bényei József: Hiszekegy

Hiszek a mindennapokban,
a reggelekben, alkonyokban,
a fényességben és az árnyban.
Ami állandó: a világban.

Van helye a fénynek és van helye a sötétségnek. Minden adventi időszak abban segít minket, hogy leüssük az utolsó akkordokat is befejezetlen dallamunkban. Tulajdonképpen esélyt kapunk egy szimfónia megalkotásához mely fényt és világosságot hozhat önmagunk számára az év legsötétebb óráiban. A téli napforduló idejétől számított (december 21) 3-4 napban nyílik meg az a kapu ami lehet visszavezet vagy elsodor önmagunktól. Fontos vagy! Számít a döntésed és az amit hozzá tudsz adni a világhoz. Tegyél hát érte, hogy az amit adni tudsz tiszta legyen és szeretetteljes. Egyáltalán nem olyan egyszerű feladat ez mint amilyennek tűnik hiszen a sötétség próbatétele pont arról szól, hogy észrevegyük a bennünk lakozó legárnyaltabb formáit is. Elképzelhető, hogy fáradt vagy és fel is adnád már talán. Viszont ez az időszak megtaníthat arra, hogy ne add fel közvetlen a célvonal előtt. Minden meg van és mindig is meg volt benned ahhoz, hogy véghez vidd a rád kiszabott feladatokat akkor is ha most nehéz. Ideje lezárni az elvarratlan szálakat, hogy ne terhelje  tovább napjaid hiszen nem számít a múlt és nem számít a jövő. Minden ami körül vesz minket itt és most történik. Tehát képletesen értve a le nem ütött akkordokat a jelenedből veszed el, önmagadtól. Megbocsájtani sem azért érdemes, hogy a másiknak jobb legyen, hanem önmagunknak. Hiszen a sötétség első sorban minket támad, a saját belső fényünket. Gyűlölettel, haraggal, bánattal, bűntudattal és az összes létező társaikkal legtöbbet önmagadnak ártasz. Erről szól hát ez a pár nap. Amikor visszavonulnak az angyalok akkor megtalálni egyedül önmagunkban a fényt ami lámpásként világíthatja meg az utat előttünk mindig csak annyit mutatva ami az utunkhoz feltételen szükséges és elegendő.
Kívánom, hogy legyen ez a pár sor számodra egy reményteljes fénysugár amikor a sötétben botorkálsz, hogy épp annyi világosságot hozzon számodra ami elegendő ahhoz, hogy megtalálhasd az elveszettnek hitt fonalat. Sikeres elengedést és szeretetteljes elvonulást kívánok mindenkinek így év végére.

Szeretetteljes Ünnepeket és Sikerekben Gazdag Új Évet!

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There is place for the Light and for the Darkness. All Advent support us to hit the last chords in our unfinished songs. Basically, we get a chance to create a symphony that can be our light in the darkest hours of the year. In the next 3-4 days from Winter Equinox (december 21), a gateway opens to each and every one of us that either lead us towards ourselves or drift us apart from our true self.  You matter! Your choices matter, and all that you can add to the world. So do not waste your chance of being pure and loving. It is not at all as easy and obvious as it might seems. The trials of the darkness is just about driving as apart from the light while showing a way to our remaining darkness within even in its slightest forms. You might feel exhausted and want to give up. However, this period can teach you need to hold on just for a little bit longer. Do not give up before you reach the finish line. You have always had and will always have the strength to change even if everything feels so heavy now. Now is the time to seal the unsewn threads, so it does not weight you down any longer. Everything you need is happening right here and right now. This also means that you take away every untouched chord from your present moment, aka from yourself. We do not forgive others for their own good but for our own well being, as the darkness hurts us the most aka our light within. With hatred, anger, sorrow, guild and all other companions, you are hurting yourself the most. This is what these days are all about. When the angels retreat, we need to find the light within which can lead the way back to ourselves by only showing just enough we need for our journey in that the moment.
I wish my lines give you strength and hope when you stumble in the dark with its light to guide you to find the thread you thought was long lost. I wish you a successful release and a loving retreat to each and every one of us this time of the year.

Wishing You Loving Holidays and A Successful New Year!

Ölelés/Hugs,
Betti

(...) it's time to see beyond the adornments and probe underneath the surface. Learn to recognize the masks people wear and the motives underlying them. Imagine that all the glitter is gone. Would you still desire the object or person?

- Wisdom of the Oracle by Colette Baron-Reid: All That Glitters - 

We are drifting somewhere between 2021 and 2022. Based on my own individual understanding, January is always some sort of 'transitional' state to be. We are not quite in the new, but not anymore in the past. What do I mean? According to the Gregorian Calendar, we enter the new year on the 1st January each year. However, this year the Chinese new year starts on the 3rd February 2022. So which one is the real new year? - you may ask yourself. Well...actually both are. I believe each year in between these periods we are 'stuck' in between the Sun and the Moon. It is simply because Gregorian is a Solar Calendar based the days it takes the Earth to revolve around the Sun, while the Chinese is a Lunisolar Calendar based astronomical observation of the Sun's longitude and the Moon's phases.

Let's face it, 2021 was a challenging year. The outcome was different for each and everyone of us, but it could have moved us out of our comfort zone. It was shifting you out of your old structures and belief system unapologetically. You may still feel the depths of lessons, you received. This is where the Moon affects us. According to Tarot, the Moon is symbolically responsible for our emotions, and fears. Everything that is deep within our emotional body. Most often than not, the Moon brings our deepest and darkest emotions to the surface.  
Meanwhile, the Sun is awakening and has started its preparations to welcome the new energies. It is already here with its new lessons and challenges. Our head might be still shaken from all the experiences we have been through in 2021, but the Sun is moving us forward and whispering us to look ahead. This is what it means to be in a 'transitional place'. Partially still in 2021, while partially already in 2022. 

So let's see briefly, what January has to tell us. In the past, you have received plenty of signs and messages to face reality. You may have been 'forced' to face yourself and the way you deceived your own reality. What seemed to be your home, turned out to be just an illusion of your mind. This was 2021 for many of us. In January, these energies have strengthened. If you missed your chance to confront the truth, January might be giving you further hardships to help you one last time before 2022 marches in with its 'All-or-Nothing' energy. 
If you have been considering to move on in any aspect of your life, this is your clue to do so. In January, you get the opportunity to realize where you have been lied to. The truth unveils and the deceptions are no longer affect you. There is something (or many) that seems all glittery from the outside, but rotten in the inside. Maybe you already know it, or maybe you are just about to face it. Whatever applies to you, know that all is well. Do not worry, how the situation unfolds. We are all individuals with different lifepaths. These unveiling might not be big things for some, while it might be lifechanging for others. It could also be that you are the one deceiving yourself by a bad habit of yours, you must leave behind. Take care!

Until next time, 
Betti

Used Oracle deck: 'All that glitters' from Wisdom of the Oracle by Colette Baron Reid

There could be an ocean filled with movies where the hero saves the day, the lady, the town, the world. Is there any in real life? Are they here listening?  When I think about whether I prefer heroes or villains, I have to admit I sympathize with villains. They are just more realistic, one could say humanlike. Of course, the destruction they cause is pretty terrible and it is not the road that anyone should take. Don't get me wrong, I like heroes and all. Most of us wanted to be one as a kid or maybe even today. Villains have something more to offer, a deeper message. In real life, we all experience some traumatic event that potentially could turn our life upside down. It could show us our dark aspect, that is more destructive. Instead of facing it, we usually run from it. We want to end it no matter what, so we start reaching out to the first substitute we can think of such as alcohol, gambling, drugs, or maybe something socially more acceptable like sugar, our partner and so on. It can be anything really. We tend to deceive ourselves everyday until it bursts out of us like a volcano. 

I don't believe in heroes and let me explain why. My problem is that people are waiting hopelessly for someone to save them. When you watch a movie, many of us fantasize about saving the day, the world. It does sound like a dream, but how does it work in real life? How do you call out a hero when you don't realize you need one or somewhere deeply inside you realize it but ignore the signs? Should we be our own heroes then? Are you ready to stand up from that chair and start making a difference? Are you ready to ask for help? 
Our idea of a Hero/Heroine is something too majestic. We think, we have to do something extraordinary to become one. We assume we need to sacrifice something we love or at least risk it all to be one. From my perspective, we don't need to think big. 

We tend to look for a role model anywhere but within. We wait until someone come and save us. Somebody who will do the hard work instead of us. Real life does not work this way. If you jump of a bridge, you could wait for Superman to fly by and catch you, but he ain't coming. 
Just because I don't believe in heroes, that doesn't mean I don't believe in help either. We get the help we need, but it may not change our lives as we hoped to if we are not willing to do anything about it. When you are feeling blue, people may come by and cheer you up. They might even lift you up from that dark place, but if you want to stay out of that pit and not falling back in, you have to do the dirty job and start working on yourself.
When I think about the term hero, I 'see' an aspect of us. What do I mean? I believe there is a hero/heroine in each and every one of us. We all have it. If you look for a saviour other than yourself, then you ignore all those amazing gifts you were born with. You don't have to save the entire planet, you know. You don't need big things to help. When you walk by a stranger just smile, or just be kind to that Cashier. Be empathetic, be kind, be genuine, be humble and caring. Show them some love by making someone's day a bit better. You can be your own idol, or maybe even someone else's. 

When you are having a bad day and scream at that stranger, you're not just venting your anger on them. You trigger a butterfly effect. That person might have a shitty day, and start taking out their anger on someone else, the next person might do likewise and so on. If you start practicing consciousness or just be more caring, more genuine you can end up having the opposite effect. You could generate a positive wave if you want to. Doesn't that sound so much better? Making someone's day better by saying something kind? Is it really that much of a big deal? Is it really that difficult to learn anger management and start using our empathy?

When you are complimenting a stranger, you may as well be the  very first person in their life who ever said something nice to them. You may leave a positive impact on their life. This is why we have to be cautious, because the same goes the other way around. When you're rude to someone, you can cause permanent damage in someone's life. By this you can cause a chain reaction that will lead to a series of disastrous events. 
In conclusion, we don't need to think big, if we want to be heroes. We can start by being genuine. We are in the flow whether we accept it or not. Therefore, it is very important how we treat each other. You can be your Hero if you please. All you have to do is start being kind and a little bit more caring. People say 'Change starts with the small things.' and how true is that. Pick up that trash you see flying around. Help those who seek it. Report that dysfunction when you see it. Clean up after yourself at home, so your partner, your parent, your family or your roommate don't have to. Who knows? Maybe they had a bad day too, and they could use a little bit of favour once in a while. In real life, all it takes is one single minute to save the day. 

Crain - Hope For The Journey Ahead

Crains are simple formations, used as landmarks to guide travellers along a path or to mark a sacred place. (...) They offer guidance for those wandering life's path. To stumble upon a crain is to know you aren't alone alone, that someone has traversed the same terrain you now find yourself on. 
- Source: Awaken -

As we passed through October, you may have experienced a little bit of confusion. You may have asked yourself: 

What should I do next?
Where does this journey take me? 
What should I choose? 
Where should I go? 

In the month of October generally, we were all effected by a powerful energy that pushed us into certain directions. This assertive force was meant to move us out of our comfort zone and realize in which part of our life we need to change direction. You may have found yourself making minor or major decisions. In the month of October, you may have experienced difficult situations that forced you to understand your need of transformation. 
Not making a choice is a decision as well. Regardless of your verdict on the situation, you had the opportunity to find your determination, a chance to do something differently. So, here we are in November. 
We are learning to walk on a new ground with seemingly no direction or whatsoever. Be aware of your false image of being alone. Your ego may play tricks on you to regret your choice and try to push back into your 'good-old' habits. If such thing happens, you need to remember why you wanted the change in the first place. 
This month your mind is at work. Stay present and be mindful of  your thoughts, as it is easy to tip off the road. If you have travel related plans, you may experience delays or some disruption as well. 
IF - and only if - you manage to keep your focus, you could regain your balance and continue your journey on this new terrain. It could give you back your long gone ( or so you believed ) hope. Progress may appear in certain aspects of your life. You may begin taking back your control and start navigating your life again. 

Remember that the job is not done yet. There is still a lot to do and to work on to be at where you wish to be. There might be further difficulties on the road, but the chance of success is there as well. All you need is to find a proper determination. 

Although, I'm a bit late. Here is the energy reading of week number 32. Let's see what we have here:
                                 • YIN • QUEEN OF COINS • TWO OF WANDS •
This week feminine energies are on the rise whether or not you have difficulties with connecting to your inner feminine energies. Every single one of us has feminine energies regardless of our gender or how we identify. Feminine energies are usually passive and gentle. It is connected to our intuition, our emotions and our connections  to it. This list is not even close covering what these energies truly represent. In this reading on the other hand, it wants us to let go of control for now. Let yourself be in the moment without wanting to control everything and everybody in your life. You've done so much and worked so hard (as previously shown in week 31 by XX.Judgement). Let others take the lead right now. This could be either physical, metaphysical or astral. 
You need to let yourself be in the moment and lay back a little. However, you need to learn how to connect with your emotions, your inner feminine, your divine self. So it is time to put your focus back to yourself and see what the Higher Realm has shown you last week. Last week some had the chance to see the darkness within, while others got a chance to enjoy their victories. 
This week the job continues by helping us to see where we are dominant and stubborn. We want to take control over all aspects of our lives. We believe if we can oversee everything, we must be able to determine and control what happens to us. Unfortunately, this is not the case. We will never have that much power nor will we able to predict it. What we need is a new approach. This is where our feminine energies come to the picture. It is time to invite them into our lives this week and let others take a lead for now. We need to learn how to LET GO OF CONTROL. 
This week is showing a lot of opportunities to choose from. Something new can come into your life. This can happen physically as well as emotionally. Maybe you got a long awaited job opportunity, a love letter, a confession. Maybe you will meet someone new. Maybe you will feel something you have never before or you have never thought you will feel it again. Maybe this week you finally realize something you couldn't wrap you head around lately.  All in all this week is all about femininity, letting others to lead and new opportunities. 

I have neither been an athletic type, nor was I good at sports. I have always been one of the slowest and worst in gym class. I know, I know … you must have heard this a million times, but bear with me please. I would like to grab the opportunity to state here and now, I am still not a Fitness Guru. I do not own a certification or have any education on proper training, so whatever I mention in this article it is based on my individual experiences and therefore, it might be different from yours. So…where was I?  Got it … that I have never really been interested in sports. I had my few tries, but never really evolved into anything. On the top of this, I am an over-thinker. As the years passed by it got worst, because I didn’t turn of my mind, therefore ‘the voices in my head’ got louder and louder. It sounds crazy, I know, but before you judge me or label me, relax…you have them too. At some point of my life, I felt I need to do something for my body. I need to start taking better care of it at some point, and it is better to start sooner than later. So there I was in January 2018, I have started running. I must admit, I was pretty terrible at it at first, but my goal was to get out and do it. Even if it is only for 10 minutes. I was cheating from time to time and skipped a couple of occasions in the beginning, but around half year in I had my turning point.

My turning point came when I truly understood why I should run. I was talking to my therapist and she suggested me to start running, because it helps to keep me in the present moment. Furthermore, it helps to ground my energy, which would otherwise float anywhere but where I need it the most. Here comes the over-thinking in the picture. Since I have a problem with it, my energies got out of hand. On a long term this can and will cause a lot of trouble. There and then, I understood that I need to run for my health and not just the physical, but the mental and emotional as well.

To me, this was the moment what made me understood why running and sports in general are amazing. This is where my view on doing sports has changed. Before I was judgmental, and I saw it as something that only people, who want to look good would do. Don’t get me wrong because there is nothing wrong with  someone wanting to look good and that is their motivation. When it comes to me, it isn’t motivating enough. As I have started running regularly and I have started to seriously keep myself to my schedule, I have realized that doing sports is so much more than I have thought before.

I felt better physically, mentally and emotionally. I had success from doing it regularly and keeping myself to my plan. Slow and steady, but I was showing some progress too. As months turned into years did I see how I could do more and more. So the weekly 2 occasion turned into 3, then the weekly 3 turned into every second day. When it comes to the length, 10 minutes turned into 15, later 15 minutes into 25 and now I am happy with my 30 minutes run that varies from time to time depending on the distance I feel up to at that time.
My goal was … actually it still is to build persistence and continuity. I wanted to create a lifestyle, because I dream about still running in my pensionist years. I’m running over 3 years now, and I have my ups and downs. It is hard to build endurance and keep going even if this is the last thing you want to do. I have to skip once in a while, but I keep getting back to my routine and keep on running. This is where I gain most of my confidence. Even if I need to skip some occasion or stop for some time, I just  get back to it.

The fact that I run regularly is also a big confidence rush, even though my performance fluctuate from time to time. Running regularly, and my success from it, has taught me that it can benefit me in the most unexpected ways. Building resistance helps me in my private life or when I face struggle. It provides me with the emotional and mental strength to cope with life when I have to.

After a while, maybe a year or a bit more, I stopped listening  to music while running, and I have started to stay present during my runs. I observe the things around me, I focus on my breath….basically I have started turning running into an active meditation. Throughout the years, I was getting better and better at it. I still have ways to go, but I can do a couple of minutes of meditation while running.

It is funny, who a disliked thing can turn into something great and a very much loved hobby. Somehow over the years, I have found spirituality in it. I realized how much I can benefit from running on all level (body, mind, soul). I have found my inner strength and my inspiration in running. I learned about the other aspects of sports, where it is not just to exhaust you but to evolve you as a human being. It teaches you dedication as well as how to stay present. It has so many valuable lessons. I wish I could have explained this to my younger self, who hated going to gym classes and disliked every minute of it. I wish I could show her the various ways she can benefit from it. Though, I wonder whether or not I would have listened to myself … Maybe I had to grow up to understand the concept.

There are many ways we love, but rarely recognize how different it is from the others because it comes so naturally. It is one thing to feel it and another to show it, but it is significant how we show it. There is no such thing as good and bad. Or is it? Is it possible that we communicate our language of love in unhealthy ways? I think it is. I do believe there are situations when someone cannot tell what is in their heart. They might think they show correctly their love because they know how they feel in their heart. However, others might fail to speak this language. We all should ask ourselves 'How do I love?'. It is important because we might scare away someone we truly love while keeping close someone else who is not as important. 
If this is true, then why do we contradict ourselves? Are we afraid to love? I do not know the answers to these questions. I am searching for them myself. Unfortunately, I cannot offer the solution either. This is a journey that everybody needs to take alone. I am on a constant journey to self-awareness myself, where I am seeking answers to my questions. This is how we become more mature and more of an adult. 
Knowing and understanding myself is essential. If I don't know who I am, then who will? If I don't know what and why I am doing, then it is very unlikely for someone else to know. Unless we talk to a professional therapist. But even in this case, you are the one who knows yourself the best. Since we need to decide whether or not is true or false the way others see us. So self-awareness in this context is the key to know which language of love we speak. Our language of love is the way we express our love to one or another. How do I love? Tenderly? Dominantly? Are you constructive or obstructive? Do you nurture or neglect? These are only a few examples from the many. So as you see there are many ways to love someone. Personally, I wonder. Why do we choose to love destructively or dominantly over tenderly? Why do we love the way we do? 
Many psychologists, therapists, psychotherapists are working on/with these issues providing their own responses. For example, Andrew Feldmár has many books and lectures about the topic of love among many others where he is offering thought-provoking answers to your questions. I highly recommend looking up his work, if you haven't done it already. 
It is a fact that we speak the language of love, we learned. The same method has been used from generation to generation in a family. But who will put an end to it? Who will stop and recognize if this method is wrong? 
Having the right self-awareness is not just necessary, but very useful. Knowing and recognizing when and how we are used and hurt, or the other way around. Understanding our needs, what is good for us, and what is not. It is much harder to love than we would think. 
Recognition is a great starting point to change. However, without action, it is worth nothing. Knowledge and self-awareness is a waste, if we do not take the necessary steps to change when the time has come. Knowledge on its own is not more than a bandage on a compound fracture. We know about the injury as much as how much it hurts. We understand why it happened, but the bandage on its own will not heal a serious wound. In order to address the issue, we need professional help and the necessary treatment. In other words, self-awareness without action is merely patting ourselves on the back. If we don't change, knowledge is only a tool for excuses. Then, we can say 'This is who I am.', 'I'm like this, because of...', 'Yeah, but you know me...'. 
To sum up, to love and to be loved can be complicated. You need the courage to ask how you love someone. How do you love your partner, family, friends? How do you love yourself? However, it is not enough to ask only. You need tho put things in action and change when it is time. When it comes to me, I merely ask for now. When I found my answers, I change. And you? Are you dare to change? 

Time flies and the years quickly go by. It's a bit cliché to say this, I know, as everyone goes through the same experience. Still, it's good to stop from time to time and think about the years behind us. All the things are worthy to remember, the good, the bad, our past. 
At the beginning of my 20s, I did not care about time and aging. I felt the one in charge as if the time had stopped and I was forever in the moment. I felt I was about to be forever in my 20s. It felt long and everlasting in a positive way. However, when I turned to 25 things has started to shift in me, and here I am today, being 29 while wondering where time has gone so fast. Time has definitely set an alarm in me, a wake-up call some might say, to let me know my 20s are soon to be over, as well as the end of an era. 
Time is relative and we should nurture the child within us, yet I feel that my naive, careless, and immature years are over. Of course, this hasn't happened overnight because I'm getting closer to 30. It's a process, a journey we all take place until a point where we realize that we are not who we once were. 
Though, there is no time or age limit. The number 30 brings us new energies that we can hardly deny. If age is indeed just a number, then why do we get scared when we reach another 'x'?
Perhaps age is not just age. It is what we associate with it aka emotions, expectations, etc. Where there is a new era, there is an ending of another one as well. When something new begins, we need to deal with the past one. Let it behind us. We need some time to grief so to speak, no matter what's passing away. "I know death, it's got many faces," says Arya Stark from Game of Thrones and how right she is. It is in everything and everywhere. It is in every breath we take and every passing moment. Nothing repeats itself, not even if it seems like. 
My 20s means more than just a couple of numbers, it reflects my memories, lightheartedness, friends, parties, summers, winters, laughs. By saying farewell to my 20s, I feel the urge to say goodbye to these memories as well. I know that my life hasn't ended and there are many more joyful decades to come. It's neither because I feel old, nor because I feel like I'm retired. It's all about growing up. 
I have sensed, seen, and experienced it in my philosophy among many other things. I'm handling my life alone without my parents' help. I'm no longer under my parents' supporting wings. After a certain point in our life, we are responsible not just for ourselves, but for others as well. This is a bit controversial as we have always had responsibility both for ourselves and others. So how and why is it different to take responsibility as an adult from a teenager or a young adult? 
The answer is in our consciousness. It is normal to expect adults to know what and why they are doing it. We spend our 20s or our younger years with getting to know ourselves. 'Who are we?' Where are we going?' 'What do we want to do with our lives?' It is not a crazy idea wanting to get a ready answer to these questions from someone in their 30s. Most of us spend our younger years searching for responses to these questions. I think this is how it differs our liability as independent adults from young adults, but still dependent on parents' support.
This is also just an ideal scenario based on the standards of modern society in the 21st century. We all live our lives differently based on our personal values. Therefore, I emphasize the younger and the adult years separately. Personally, I connect my younger years to my 20s. Although, there are some cases, where a number is indeed just a number. Just like a so-called adult in its 40s who is still living with its parents while being completely dependent on their approval. How many people are living still like this? How many so-called adults are there in our society who incapable of taking responsibility not only for others but for themselves as well? 
However, this article is not about them. It's merely a collection of my memories. I dedicated it to my last 10 years, and to show my gratitude towards my family, my friends, but mostly to myself. At the age of 29, in my last 20s, I assemble every blessing I have received in these years. I pause a little to say thank you because I need this. I need to say farewell to all the worthy memories, so I can welcome a new era in my life with gratitude and excitement. It is good to stop for a moment and think about our actions so far. Where are we and what we are heading to? Am I really where I would like to be? 

I don't want to be just another princess in the highest tower of the castle waiting for her savior. I would much rather be a warrior princess who escapes from her prison and kill the dragon herself. I wish no longer to live on fairytales that make me believe I need someone to be saved or to be whole again. I don't want to be the person who thinks she needs Prince Charming to have a better life. I want to be that person who not only believes but knows that she has all the power she needs to be enough as she is. 
I've got tired of depending on people or circumstances. All I ever wanted is to be free and often I forget that hard times have always been and will always be there. What I want is to remember. Remember the power I once discovered within myself.
We all need reminders from time to time when we forget about our greatness. I don't want to go on and on about different empty clichés. I just want to inspire and to be inspired, because being confident and find our emotional strength is just one thing. There could be an ocean filled with tools and motivations for this problem only. What most people forget to mention is that you will lose your power over time again and again, which is normal. It is fine to fail and then find the strength to stand up again. I don't think anyone can possess such inner strength with consistency. This kind of confidence was made to be lost and found over and over again until we finally gain balance. When we lose our grip on our inner power and fall, it takes time to pull ourselves together again. Then we succeed and it fills us up with energy. We feel empowered, but then life happens and we fall again. However thanks to our previous falls and experiences it takes less and less time to stand up again. 
In today's society, gender equality is strongly present and discussed. Women can be independent and there are more and more powerful female roles setting us great examples. As a woman, I think it is great to have the opportunity to be equal. In an enlightened society, there needs to be enlightened values and roles. On the other hand, I wouldn't connect the opportunity of freedom and independence to genders. 
It doesn't matter how we identify ourselves, as the prince/princess or the hero/heroine who needs to be saved. The point is that we are the creators of our faith and we should not wait until our Prince Charming knocks on the door, while we wait in the depth of our dungeons where we voluntarily locked ourselves in. The door is opened and we can step out of it if we want to. I'm not saying it's easy or there is no struggle along the way. I'm not claiming you won't need your inner strength or some encouragement. All I'm saying is that we all have the power to unlock the door and defeat the dragon equally. Whether we succeed or not it all depends on the work we are willing to put in it. 
We all have the chance to practice the freedom of choice. I wish not to live my life in a dungeon or the highest tower of the castle, while I'm staring at the door day by day waiting for someone to rescue me. I know I can step up. I know I have already had the inner power and strength that I need. All I have to do is to remember it even if I'm lost in the darkness.